I did start a couch to 5k program, but only completed the first workout. It was rainy/snowy midweek, and I am apparently a fair-weather runner.
I made it to two barre classes in a week for the first time in a while, hurray! Of course, I am now behind for this week because I was up nearly all night Sunday night with the death cramps and bailed on my Monday am class. I have high hopes for getting back on track, starting with class tomorrow.
I did accomplish my alcohol goal, which I expected to be the hardest one. (What can I say, I like wine.) But I found myself being more thoughtful about why I wanted a drink, and I made it through.
I stayed better hydrated. I’m aiming for about 64 oz each day, but I probably hit 48 most days last week.
Reasonable portions went mostly well, except for a minor potato chip binge when G sent me a surprise Prime delivery of Ruffles while she was out of town. Oh. And a giant vegan burger + fries + vegan cheesecake Friday night. Damn.
Sugar binges? See cheesecake confession, above.
So my progress is a solid meh. But I’m trying to hold onto the fact that I got started, and now I just need to keep resetting based on these goals.
well hey there, blog. since i last updated, g and i have successfully relocated to raleigh, i’ve turned 35, we adopted two rescue boston terriers, attempted a pregnancy, and i have gained about 25 pounds. whoops. of course, it’s tempting to blame all of this on our southern car-dependent lifestyle, but it’s much more accurate to say this has been happening over time as i have gotten older without changing any of my 20something habits regarding food and alcohol.
and i swing back and forth between the body-positive, unapologetic feminist i aspire to, and “my raised by two very body conscious parents, struggled with an eating disorder as a young teen” self.
the truth is, i’m happier than i’ve ever been. i love my partner, our life in raleigh, my job is pretty great, and there is a snoring boston curled against my hip as i write this. g calls it “love chub,” the extra weight that i’ve gained since netflix and wine replaced my early am gym routine. i’ve also been working harder on my mental health, finally talking to a psychiatrist, continuing paxil, and connecting with an amazing therapist. my ibs is better than it’s ever been, but a side effect of paxil is – you guessed it – weight gain.
i’m hoping to adopt the mantra “strong not skinny” eventually, but i do have a goal weight in mind. in order to keep my focus off the scale, i’m going to work on lifestyle changes. and in the interest of accountability, i’m planning to document my progress here.
start a couch to 5k program this week
attend 2 barre classes per week
limit alcohol consumption to 3 drinks per week
eat reasonable portions of delicious food
avoid sugar binges
and hit my goal weight by my birthday in july. so i’m getting started today, and i’ll let you know how it goes.
Just a quick check in from where I am, which is Washington, DC, in a half-packed apartment. Like most of America, 2016 has been batshit for me and G, and we’re capping it all off with an end-of-year move to Raleigh, NC for her new job.
In 2016, G and I both quit jobs and found new ones (me in March-July and her in October), G lost her dad after a years-long illness (August), survived her pretty major surgery (September), celebrated our commitment with family and friends (October), witnessed the end of U.S. Democracy (November), planned a move, cancelled our holiday visit to my family, bought a new car, and G got in a pretty serious car accident (December). And in the past two months, I’ve traveled to Seattle, Connecticut, Denver, Jackson, MS, and Raleigh. Meanwhile, G left to start her new job at the beginning of December and is coming home tomorrow to finish off packing and celebrate Christmas (with, like, takeout). We officially move next Tuesday.
So I got tired just typing all of that. Here’s a picture of Zelda to calm us all down:
It’s hard to eat well when you’re traveling a lot and stressed out and all you want to do is curl up with a bottle of wine and watch Supernatural on Netflix. My diet has been pretty hit or miss for the past sev-er-al months. In October, I was deep in election mode, and ate a lot of frozen meals and canned soup. In November, I drank a lot of wine and ate a lot of chocolate. In December I did okay despite being on the road a lot (10 points for an Airbnb that’s three blocks from a Whole Foods!) but now I’m packing the kitchen, so I’m going to be microwave-dependent for another week or so. There’s no brilliant insight coming. This is just me feeling overwhelmed.
To get back on track, I’ve signed up for the Clean Food Dirty Girl Plant Based Reset. It’s kind of an investment ($249 for five weeks) but I decided it’s worth it. For the month of January, I’m committing to eat entirely whole food plant based and taking better care of myself. And G is doing it with me! I’m hoping to share the experience here.
I also want to talk about our mostly-vegan exchange of vows in Asheville, and my experience with Paxil and IBS. And virtual therapy through the TalkSpace app. And working from home. And eating vegan in Raleigh. As per usual, I’m hopeful that I’ll pick up blogging and cooking again once things slow down in my world. Wish me luck!
I finally got a passport at age 33. This seems to surprise a lot of my friends and colleagues. Who doesn’t have a passport, right?
This has made me feel feelings about my race and economic privilege relative to my family. We never had passports growing up because we vacationed every three years and we went to Northwest Iowa to visit my dad’s family. On the rare occasions that international travel opportunities presented themselves while I was in school, my mother’s response was somewhere on the spectrum of “we can’t afford that” and “hell no.” (She’s maybe a bit overprotective — she still texts to make sure I made it okay when she knows I’m traveling.) In college I chose to spend a semester in Washington, DC instead of abroad, because it seemed more practical/attainable and after college I worked political organizing jobs with long hours and tiny paychecks for lots of years. Clearly, some of my friends and colleagues could afford to travel, but it just seemed liked something other people did.
The idea of international travel has only felt possible (financially, timewise) to me within maybe the last three years? And I didn’t need a passport for Puerto Rico when my friends and I went in 2014. But this year we chose Jamaica as our Spring Break destination (yes, adult spring break is a thing we do. Five of six of us live in silly cold places with long winters, so we travel in March to someplace warm and beachy).
All of that context aside, I was holding onto a pretty major concern about international travel: what the hell was I going to eat? I’ve heard many stories about friends who try mysterious foods or compromise on vegetarianism while traveling, and while that sounds fun, spending most of my trip holed up near a toilet definitely doesn’t. I was super relieved when my friends suggested an all-inclusive resort option (meaning all meals, drinks and activities are factored into the cost of your hotel room). Of course, familiar food isn’t necessarily ibs-friendly food, so I still packed in: two packages of Udi’s gf hamburger buns (8 total rolls, or enough to have one at lunch and dinner each day of the trip); eight single serving pouches of Justins’s nut butters; four NuGo bars; four Clif bars; and four packets of oatmeal. IBS has made me a light packer clothes-wise, since I always need room for food.
We stayed at the Holiday Inn Montego Bay, and while I have nothing to compare it to, my friends said it was pretty standard compared to similarly-priced all-inclusives they’d stayed at. Food is served buffet-style at breakfast, lunch and dinner, and there are several “restaurants” (really just dining rooms that serve themed food) on site. Our package included dinner reservations at their Jamaican and Italian restaurants, and the rest of the time, we were buffet-bound.
Breakfast was the most challenging meal for me, and I leaned heavily on the rolls and almond butter, with fruit and usually potatoes from the buffet. The buffet was well labeled with both vegan and vegetarian items identified, as well as gluten free. This was super helpful, as my downfall is often eating the thing that looks least harmful, only to find out a few hours later that it was probably cooked in butter.
I took a couple of plate pictures from the buffet. This what a pretty typical lunch: Pumpkin rice, potatoes, a cooked vegetable (not delicious) and some kind of bean stew or salad). I only saw tofu on the first day of our trip and it was raw, cubed, and served over pasta. Odd. The highlight was the burger shack near the pool where we went for grilled cheese sandwiches (for my friends) and fries (for me) sometime between lunch and dinner. Most of my friends are vegetarian, and it was hard to stay full on the fairly limited protein available.
The “restaurant” dinners were a lot sketchier. We were assigned reservations at the Jamaican place the first night and they had one vegetarian option on the menu. It was a coconut curry that was more like a tiny portion of soup with a large plate of rice. We ended up paying for bottles of wine at dinner, because the free wine was the foulest substance I have ever willingly ingested. When we checked out, the front desk clerk through there was a mistake because we had so many wine charges on our bill. Whoops. The Italian restaurant was the best night for my friends and the worst for me. There was nothing I could eat on the menu, but a note indicated that entrees were served with roasted potatoes and steamed vegetables, so I asked for a plate of that. Pretty lame to be eating plain potatoes and steamed veggies while your friends get pesto gnocchi, but it was our last night.
Of course, the end of the story is that the vegetables were cooked in butter and I was pretty sick the next morning. The ride to the airport was stressful, but I felt okay by the time I boarded my plane.
So what did I learn? First, that I can leave the country and eat and not be terribly sick the whole time. Baby steps. Second, that I have actually learned how to take care of myself pretty well and I just need to do what I already know how to do. Third and finally, next time I go the all-inclusive route, I will pay more for a child-free resort. #notsorry
My 2016 has been off to a chaotic start. The new job I started in November turned out to be a terrible fit for me, and I resigned earlier this month. I took a work trip in January that introduced me to an epic cold virus and I was coughing and congested for four very long weeks. Oh and the Supreme Court decided to take up a very historic abortion access case, and since I work in the reproductive rights/abortion access field, things have been busy.
Somehow in the midst of this, I realized I needed a new primary care provider, since I have moved and switched insurance companies in the last year. Given the stress of the job and the long illness, my ibs symptoms were not as controlled as they once were and I was struggling with anxiety and depression. I go to One Medical in DC, which is a sort of concierge practice (they charge a membership fee, but in return the care and access to doctors/appointments is so much better than anywhere else I’ve been in the city). And I chose a PCP in the office near my house who has experience working with LGBT patients, because it’s just a lot easier to work with a doctor who isn’t uncomfortable talking about my personal life. (You’d be surprised.)
I made and cancelled two or three appointments because of last-minute work things before I was able to get in to see the doctor. By this time I was pretty sure I needed anti-anxiety medication and/or anti-depressants, and probably an IUD because my period pain has also increased and nothing but muscle relaxers can tame it. I’ve been resistant to to all three of these things because I know that ibs is at the root of my problems, but also that doctors don’t generally know what to do with ibs except throw drugs at it.
And this is where things take an unexpected turn because this PCP happens to be a holistic doctor who specializes in helping people find the nutritional roots of their medical problems. This is the doctor I have been looking for since at least 2011, when my ibs started getting bad. And I found her exactly when I had given up on taking a holistic approach and just wanted someone to whip out a prescription pad and put a bandaid on my problems.
This was the first doctor I’ve worked with to talk about ibs beyond “eat more fiber” and “try meditation.” That’s the good news. The bad news is, I’ve been feeling surprisingly ambivalent about this development. Finding a solution to ibs requires work. And adjusting to new supplements. And possibly making some real exceptions to my 21 years of vegetarianism. Would all this be worth it if I actually got past ibs? Definitely. I’ve had symptoms for so long, I can’t really imagine my life without it.
So far, I’ve started taking a new multivitamin, an intestinal repair supplement, a new probiotic, and a liver support supplement (and to be honest, by “started taking” I mean “inconsistently taken for a couple weeks”). I’ll try an elimination diet after my trip to Jamaica in a few weeks. And hopefully, I’ll be using this space to keep track of my progress.
Both G and I travel for work quite a bit, so the past two weeks have been a lovely post-holiday break where neither of us has had to go anywhere. When we’re both in town, we take turns planning meals for the week – our schtick is making dinners that yield enough leftovers for at least one day of lunches. G is an urban homesteader, so we always have plenty of canning jars for packing lunches around the house.
Pre-G, I was a Ziploc tupperware kind of girl, but I am fully converted to these glass jars. They’re inexpensive and they last forever – my ziploc tupperwares were forever getting warped by the dishwasher or microwave and stopped sealing properly after a few uses. They’re much easier to pack in a workbag – they store upright, so you don’t end up with the dreaded “curry bag” at the end of your commute. Also, they’re glass, so no potential weirdo chemicals will leach into your food.
Anyway, this is my week to plan. We decided to switch off weeks because G is a Virgo and loves planning, like, a lot, and shortly after we moved in together last year, I realized she had unofficially taken over meal planning. As someone who loves to cook and try new recipes, I didn’t want to completely hand over the kitchen responsibilities, so we try to take turns as meal planner/head chef and sous chef.
G is more of a “kitchen classics” cook, and when she likes something, it goes into a regular rotation, while I have Pinterest boards full of meal ideas and like trying new things all the time. It works out pretty well to have a week of recipes we know and love alternating with a week of experiments.
Our menu for this week is almost entirely new to me; I’ve made the potato soup before, but not for G:
Friday – G’s work event, so we’ll probably eat out
And everything is vegan, gluten- and soy-free. #winning
I’ve never had pozole before; it’s one of many Mexican dishes that my mom doesn’t like, so I grew up thinking it was gross, despite have no idea what it was. I don’t remember my grandma making it all that often, but if she did, my mom probably made us chicken nuggets or something.
But G and I went to a brunch at my boss’ house on New Year’s Day, and she served traditional (pork) pozole and it smelled amazing. G had at least two bowls. So I’ve been on a mission to find a pozole that we can enjoy together.
We settled on the recipe from Epicurious, because it included ground cloves (which G identified as the mystery spice that made the pozole so amazing) and red kidney beans, which seemed heartier than the pinto beans other recipes called for. We served it with roasted potatoes for me, because IBS. I LOVED this soup, but G is on the fence. This one has too many ingredients for her, and the zucchini and corn felt extraneous. This is also not a very brothy soup, and we all took a little extra broth with our dinner portions, so the lunch jars are more stew-like. I would fix this by adding maybe two cups of water or broth after serving dinner, and letting it simmer a little longer, while G thinks we ought to cut the amount of each ingredient so the water to stuff ratio is more balanced (and ditch the zucchini and maybe the corn entirely — not happening, sorry).
This recipe fed three of us for dinner with four very full pint jars leftover for lunches. We may tweak it in the future, but I’m excited to have finally tried pozole.